Recently I was asked to create a presentation regarding self care and after rereading my past presentation and materials, I’ve changed my approach to the topic. Of course, I still believe in practicing self care but what I would like to change the focus to is self compassion.
Are you aware of the underlying self talk that you say to yourself on a daily basis?
You know, that voice that is there when you try to zip up those jeans and they don’t fit like they used to or when you forget your to do list and come home from the grocery without half of what you need.
How about the voice that is there when you spend an afternoon reading a good book but then see the pile of laundry?
Or the voice that tells you there is no way you deserve that promotion?
The voice that says you don’t need to sit down and rest after working all day.
My favorite is that voice after you look in the mirror, the one that points out all of the wrinkles, reminds you that you aren’t as young as you used to be.
A few weeks ago, a beautiful friend stated she was struggling with her latest birthday and that she felt she was getting old. The voice in my head began to say to me that if my friend is struggling then I must be crazy to think I don’t look horrible.
Why do we say things to ourselves that we would NEVER say to a friend? Most of us will go out of our way to be there for someone we love but we often do not have the ability to even know what we need.
In this age of social media where we all are making sure our best view of life is prominent, many of us are struggling behind the scenes with often negative self mantras.
When is the last time you said something nice to yourself? Or when is the last time you gave yourself permission to rest and acknowledged you had been through a lot?
Take a few minutes to take this self compassion test. Perhaps you are already practicing self compassion or perhaps you need to realize that you deserve the same respect that you provide others.
Regardless, practice being a friend to yourself.