I don’t like the statement “Moving On” I have heard it often in regards to grief work “The family can move on.” “It’s time for you to move on. It’s been long enough.”
However, lately the words have been echoing and showing up in my life in so many ways that I know I need to take some time and respect them. The latest sign was when I was looking through my nightstand and came across this book that I hadn’t looked at in years and as I looked through the first chapters, I discovered I had marked my place with one of my Mom’s business cards. God speaks to you in many ways – it may not be a billboard but it can be something subtle like a book title and a sign from your mother!
I took it as something I need to explore. What does moving on really mean? Is it necessary? Don’t we move on whether we want to or not? Do we sometimes have to be purposeful in our moving on?
For myself, I am openly acknowledging that I am at a point in my life where so many changes have occurred in my life that I had to make a choice about moving on. I moved on from my career as a Hospice employee. I moved into a role of a grieving daughter and granddaughter because I had no choice but to accept that role. I moved on to a role as a part-time college instructor because it fit into my life and needs at the time.
My uneasiness in my life makes me aware that it is time for me to move on to something new and something different. That thought can be scary and exciting at the same time. Staying put sounds easier and less of a struggle. But staying where I am will not benefit me as I have received what I could from this time. My gut and everything else in my life tells me that it is time to move on. Staying put will only be uncomfortable and make me unhappy.
As I think about why I haven’t liked the words moving on – it comes down to the fact that saying those words sounds much easier than doing them. Saying that you have “moved on” (from whatever it is) can in no way share the pain and discomfort, the grief and loss, the heartache and often sleepless nights. Moving On is work.Moving On can be scary.Moving On can be rewarding and worth everything. Moving On is Letting Go. Letting Go is hard.
What words or thoughts are echoing in your own life? Do you feel the pull to move on? To a new career To do something different? Try a new hobby. To let go? Of a relationship or an old habit.
I’m not sure where I am heading but I know over the next few months that I am moving on. I have to. It’s time.
Sheryl is a transition coach, trainer and speaker from Lexington Kentucky. As the author of the blog How to Make A Life, she uses her own life and journey as a blueprint to help others find motivation, inspiration and hope for a healthy and happy life. About Twitter Instagram Pinterest