For many of us, this will be the first full week of work in several weeks. It is the time of year where many of us try to begin new routines. Those new routines can be a struggle with the cold winter weather that makes most of us want to slow down and retreat into our homes.
If you follow me on Instagram , you may know that I have begun sharing some of my favorite motivational and inspirational quotes every Monday and Thursday. I know that motivation can be difficult to find at times and even more difficult to maintain. Today, I’m starting a new series to provide a little more thought behind the quote.
Today I want to focus upon fear.
The truth is, I allowed fear to control areas of my life in 2016 (to be discussed more later). For whatever reasons, I allowed the old negative self talk to become louder and as a result I stopped dreaming, became a little paralyzed in regards to living my life and in some ways began to feel old.
Most of my friends and family may be surprised at the fact fear was playing such a large part in my life. Typically, I thrive on fear. In some ways, I believe last year was the year of cumulative emotions from everything I have encountered over the past few years.
Fear does in fact do all of the things mentioned in the quote above.
My fear was coming to me in the way of negative self talk. I began comparing myself to others in regards to work, blogging and life in general. I began to have thoughts about my appearance, my skill set and every aspect in general. Who did I think I was? Who was I to dream some of the things I was dreaming?
I found myself questioning my career dreams not because of anything other than fears of not having the “right” look, not having “enough” money to truly do what I want (after all I still need a regular paycheck), and at one point I even questioned if my own personal experiences were “enough” to help others in the world of life coaching.
I found myself thinking that perhaps I simply needed to have a job. I found it hard to be motivated to do more than I was doing. The truth was I was fearful of rejection and not succeeding when in fact I was already succeeding.
In regards to my health, I began having lower back problems early in 2016 and put off going to a doctor simply because of fear. I had been told when I was younger that the strain of gymnastics and other sports would harm my back. My own self talk was telling me that the pain I was feeling was a result of pushing myself beyond where I should have. I feared surgery (the worse possible option). Sadly, it took me until July to seek a physician who understood and provided a referral to a specialized physical therapist. No surgery needed and only daily exercises.
Fear thrives on paralyzing each of us. Fear wants each of us to think the worse will happen.
Although fear is often necessary, it is also a liar.
I’ve made 2017 the year that I have returned to the woman who walks along side and in front of her fear rather than behind it. There have been a few times when I wasn’t sure how I was going to do it but this quote has provided me with the instructions of what I need to do.
I would rather do something the wrong way than do nothing at all.
Don’t let fear control your life!
What are you allowing fear to do?