Do you consider yourself someone who is always up for an adventure?
As I consider today’s prompt for Mia and Vashelle’s Write or Die Wednesday, I recognize that I have not always been up for adventure in life. My father’s sudden death created a level of fear for my Mom which impacted how she parented in many ways. Although she did not tell my brother or me that we could not do things, she was always hesitant. One of the worse things had happened. As a result, she lived much of her life cautious.
As many children, I did many things my Mom didn’t know about. If she had known before hand, she would have never allowed it. What she didn’t know afterwards certainly did not hurt her. I tried to not let her own fears of the world become my own. Thus, I did have some adventures but I was more aware than my peers of the possibility of what could happen.
Sadly, I did make a few decision to not have adventures because of my relationship with my Mom. Admitted to two colleges out of state, I chose to stay close to home. It was ultimately my decision as my Mom never pressured me any direction. Ultimately, I felt I needed to stay close to home. I needed my family and wasn’t ready to take the adventure of living hundreds of miles from home, making a new life and living on my own.
Losing a parent in a tragic accident at a young age can impact a child in many ways. For me, I became much older than my age. I became aware of the nuances of life that shouldn’t have been learned until I was older. This knowledge prevented me from more adventures. I was aware that things might not turn out like I hoped.
Adventure does not always have to involve travel. It can involve emotional archaeological digs. It can involve reevaluating your life. An adventure can happen in your own neighborhood as well as across the globe. As I think about it, my younger brother and I had many adventures as we played on the farms of our grandparents. Our imagination can take us on an adventure at any time.
The woman I am now is not the girl I was at 17. I left my smaller hometown because I knew I needed more than it could provide me. (Many of my high school peers have chosen to not leave the confines of where everyone knows who they are). I’ve traveled internationally. I moved to a city where I knew no one but my husband. (My boss later told me that I had learned the city better than some natives). My husband and I have built two houses. (It’s amazing what you learn). I’ve left a job I thought I would do forever and started a new career. (This continues to be an ongoing adventure for me)
There have been adventures that were not so great. Adventures I will not take again. However, I do not regret any adventure I have taken.
My hope is that there will come a day when I can look back at my life and see the multitude of adventures I have had in my life. I hope to continue being open to each adventure that comes to me. Although I know that things can happen at any time, I hope to never let fear be the reason I turn down an opportunity for an adventure.
Are you someone who embraces adventure? What adventures have you taken in your life?
What adventures do you plan?