Last week I shared that I have made the decision to not decorate for Christmas like I have in the past. As much as I love the season, I knew that I could not decorate as I have in previous years. Over the past few days I have been thankful for the decision.
Many of you may be feeling not so much in the Christmas spirit. Perhaps you are dealing with your own illness or the illness of a family member, or (as many people) are worried about your job, or are simply stressed about everything in your life. If you fall into one of those categories or another one, I want to give you permission to downsize your Christmas expectations. Most of us find it difficult to make the decision to not follow our traditional paths – especially when it comes to the ritual and tradition of the Holidays.
The reality is there is a part of me that would love to do nothing over the Holidays. I am tired and as in the early parts of my grief, everything is taking longer to do. It becomes frustrating and because of that fact, I am happy I made the decision to downsize our Christmas. Today I wanted to provide a short tour of what I have done.
The above picture is in our front foyer. I did make the new wreath for the mirror and the Angel belonged to my Mom. It looks much different from years past (this is where we would have our nativity) but it also feels festive enough for the season.
Instead of the five trees, this year I put up only two.
The tree on the right was also my Mom’s along with the bulb ornaments. These were the last ornaments that she bought last year before she became sick and I love the colors. They are not expensive or anything out of the ordinary but they are special because she was still looking forward to Christmas when she bought them in October. This tree is our “kitchen” tree as it also holds our ornaments that are centered around the kitchen (along with a lot of wine glasses).
The tree on the left is our family room tree. Typically, it would hold many of our collectible ornaments but this year it holds only the ones which were easy to get out. As I am my Mother’s daughter, I pack everything up so carefully that it takes FOREVER to unpack each year. This year, I didn’t have the energy.
I miss my other tress, the gold and bronze in the living room, the team tree with all of our teams and of course my shoe tree in the bedroom. I also miss my table top Christmas trees for the dining room but this year I am enjoying beautiful Christmas ornaments in a crystal bowl.
As I stated in my post about Fall decorating, I do this for myself and I am proud of myself when I think of the decisions I have made to not get everything out. You can enjoy the season without going overboard and what matters is that you are listening to yourself and your needs. Choose your events wisely if you have been invited to something every weekend. Take time to rest (something I have trouble doing) and make time for things that you truly enjoy. Below is my cat Sam, he enjoys the throw and pillow in our living room everyday!
Don’t forget to follow along with the 25 days of Christmas ornaments with Amber Marie from After April.