Are you someone who believes in coincidence or that some things are meant to be?
Less than two months ago, I openly admitted (in my journal) that I was unhappy with teaching the number of college classes I was teaching. I had been feeling this way for some time but I was afraid to truly acknowledge it. I realized once I acknowledged it that I would be forced to make a change in my life.
Teaching at the University of Kentucky has been an amazing opportunity and was the perfect job to have as I began to build my private practice. However, it was beginning to take up more time than I wanted it to. Making this admission to myself opened up doors that I believe are not just coincidence.
Admitting I needed to stop teaching was scary. Although my practice is growing, it is not to the level where I can go without some form of a steady income. ( Income is not steady when you are waiting on insurance reimbursements.) Ideally I wanted a part-time job where I could work on the days I do not see private clients.
Part-time jobs in the social work/counseling field are not easy to find. Nonetheless, I began to apply for a variety of positions. Very few of the positions excited me but I needed something.
I received a phone call from a recruiter at a local hospital and agreed to a phone interview. The position as she explained it was what has become a typical social work job of case management. Although not my strongest area, the hours needed were 16 per week. Two days a week at my practice and two days at another job was exactly what I was looking for.
I was beginning to think I hadn’t passed the phone interview when I finally received an email requesting an job interview. What surprised and excited me was the email was from the palliative care case manager. This position was specific to palliative care which is an area of medicine dealing with chronic illness and individuals needing pain management but not necessarily end of life care. In many cases, palliative care can be a precursor to hospice care.
Have you ever been to an interview and just felt that everything was right? I meet with three individuals and all were shocked that I didn’t realize this position was palliative care. (It had not been advertised as such) With 12 years of hospice grief counseling experience, I understand medical social work. Most importantly, this team was looking for someone to provide counseling to patients and families in regards to difficult decisions such as decisions regarding ending treatment or entering hospice care. As I sat there, I truly couldn’t believe what I was hearing. Truth be told, there has been a part of me missing this type of work.
“I don’t think this is just a coincidence.” one of the interviewers stated during the interview. I’ve never had an interview where I felt I had it as I left. I left the interview on Friday afternoon and by Monday afternoon I had a phone call offering me the job.
Truly I feel like I am where I am supposed to be in my career at this moment.
As I looked back at a few of the circumstances regarding the job, I felt there were many signs that this was not coincidence, but meant to be.
- My initial phone call was on the two year anniversary of the day I left my job as grief counselor at Hospice of the Bluegrass. It somehow feels I am coming full circle.
- My interview was on the afternoon of our wedding anniversary. Dates have always been significant to me.
- One of the interviewers came in the room and immediately knew me because she had attended the ethics training I presented in February. This was just a reminder of how important it was for me to say yes to that opportunity last summer.
- When I began negotiating on my salary (something I typically haven’t done), I received a response with the statement “We apologize if we insulted you with the first offer.” Uh, really?
Today I am where I had hoped to be. I have a private practice that is doing well and another job that will provide a consistent paycheck. I will continue to do trainings on a regular basis and teach the class I love the most. (I’m not ready to give up teaching completely.) Although I continue to have additional plans for my career, it is important to appreciate the now.
I share my story today because the past two years have been a significant transition period in my life. It is not possible to predict how long a transition time will take but it is important to know with work, and listening to and following your gut, that one can achieve their hopes and dreams. Some may call it coincidence but I feel there are things that are meant to be.
Do you believe that some things are coincidence or are somethings are just meant to be?
I’m joining with Emily for Grateful Heart Monday because I am truly grateful for the current place I am at in life.