“Something Always Happens.”
After one has gone through many trials and struggles, it can be very difficult to believe that good things can and do happen. Sadly, after a time it can become common place to develop the expectation of the worse possible outcome. A positive ending doesn’t feel possible or even right.
Hope can feel fruitless.
My work as a counselor has always been to help others find hope and to see that there can be a different ending.
Outcomes can be positive. Dreams can come true.
Hope is present but we must believe in it. We have to be aware of the damage trauma of failed relationships, lost jobs, and multiple deaths can do to us on a physical and emotional level. It can make us anxious, cautious and fearful.
Hope can become lost in the history of sadness and pain.
I have always been a positive individual but I recently discovered how cautious I have become in regards to expecting positive outcomes.
Positive changes are occurring in my life. They feel awkward and I question if things are too good to be true. I find myself fighting the thoughts that things will not be as good as I think. I heard the words in my head. “Something Will Happen.” “This doesn’t happen to me.”
I counter those thoughts with my knowledge of others who have struggled with their own fears of never receiving “A different ending from what they have received.”
- The couple who miscarried five times and had stillborn twins. They delivered a healthy and beautiful baby girl.
- The young 28 year old widow with a 3 month old baby who had her healthy athletic husband die of a heart attack. She felt there would be no one else. Several years later, she remarried.
- The woman who survived multiple layoffs at her company only to struggle with physical ailments from the stress. She finally accepted a severance and changed her career path by going back to school.
- The teacher diagnosed with stage III Ovarian Cancer, multiple surgeries, rounds of chemo and experiments. She was given only a few years. Almost six years later, she is traveling to ovarian survivors conferences. She has cancer but she is living.
The past does not repeat itself, although at times it can appear that it does. It can be a struggle to remind yourself that “Life is and can be good.”