A blogger that I follow recently had a baby. As she continued to go past her due date, she posted daily updates on her instagram. I don’t know her and she lives states away but I found myself daily looking for her feeds. It was as if I were friends with her but the wonderful thing about the blog world is that you do often feel as if you know someone.
This blogger is absolutely adorable, she has a beautiful home, handsome husband, lovely family which includes Mom, Dad and Grandparents and everything else one could want. There were a few times when I found myself thinking “Does she even know what she has?” “Does she know how lucky she is to easily get pregnant, live in a home where she can buy high end items, and simply be beautiful?” I was jealous.
During those moments I will admit I was feeling sorry for myself. As we know, getting and staying pregnant were not easy for me, my closest biological family is gone and I will always struggle with how I view myself. – the weight, the new wrinkles……
I know I am not alone in feeling this way. It’s so easy to look and feel that our neighbor’s, friend’s, co-worker’s and fellow bloggers’ life must be so much better than our own. Even though I daily practice gratitude, it can be a struggle to want what someone else has. It is such a normal reaction.
As I pulled myself back and put things in perspective – I realized it is possible that there is someone who may even want elements of my life. (How could that possibly be?) I am blessed that I have not had to work full-time over the past year and we have some money in the bank. I have a closet full of nice clothes and shoes. I’ve just returned from a fantastic vacation and the bottom line is there is a man and people who do love me.
I feel that learning to be happy with where and what you have is something you must continuously practice. It is not something that you accomplish once and never have to revisit. There will always be something new that someone else has – whether it be a new home, car, clothes or job. On the flip side of that, there is always someone who is struggling- they’ve lost their job, having to rent and may feel lost.
Perspective changes everything.
As for the blogger I follow:she did have her baby – and from what I can tell it was a perfect birth experience (and I just want to add it looks like she was never pregnant). I will continue to read her blog but only as it comes up in my bloglovin feed. I know her life can’t be as wonderful and perfect as I have it in my mind.
Have there been times in your life when you wanted to trade places with someone? Have you found yourself thinking that the grass truly must be greener? How do you deal with those emotions?
Sheryl is a transition coach, trainer and speaker from Lexington Kentucky. As the author of the blog How to Make A Life, she uses her own life and journey as a blueprint to help others find motivation, inspiration and hope for a healthy and happy life. About Twitter Instagram Pinterest