As I continue on this journey of reconnecting the pieces of my life, last night I came across a HUGE piece that has been missing. It is not unusually to find that you have no interest in things which once were very important.
Actually, one of my clients stories that stands out the most has always reminded me of myself.
My client was very much the fashionista, and had the bank account to be a high end fashionista. A few months after her mother died she had a business trip to Seattle. As she felt she must – she made a trip to the main Nordstorm’s store. She returned to our next sessions and shared that she found herself standing in the middle of one of largest shoe departments and she didn’t want to be there. There wasn’t one shoe that she wanted, no color stood out, nothing.
“Someday you will care about them again.” I assured her. Promised her. I used this time to normalize her grief emotions.
And in time she did come to her sessions with some new shoes, and later some new boots. It simply took some time.
Last night, as I was looking through the September issue of Marie Claire, I realized that Fall is coming. Time for new shoes and boots. I couldn’t remember the last time I bought a pair of shoes (other than my running shoes). I couldn’t even remember the last time I looked at shoes.
And it made me sad that something which used to make me happy has been missing from my life for a long time. (I’m pretty sure I didn’t buy any new shoes last fall or winter).
Now I know I am fortunate enough that I have a closet full of shoes and that I could go a year without buying anything new. (Much like my client that I mentioned).
|Just a few of my shoes during a purging a few years ago before we moved.
White House Black Market Wedge on the left
But I actually got excited last night when I looked at the new Fall boots.
And I realized something had been missing – and I was looking forward to seeing what was out there.
Looking forward – it is important. Even if it’s just for a pair of Fall boots.
Any one want to go shopping?
Have a great weekend!!