This past Tuesday I celebrated 525,500 minutes of my life – or as I always call my birthday ” Another Trip around the Sun” (I’m a Leo by birthright and I love the Sun and also love to make it a point to share it’s my birthday!)
“You didn’t have a choice that your loved one died but you do have a choice in how you grieve.” This was what I told every client who came into my office. Yes, something horrible happened that was out of your control but what you can control is how you react and deal with the emotions.
“Grief is normal and there are healthy and unhealthy ways to cope.” As I look back at the past year it does appear it has been nothing but grief. The loss of our baby, possible loss of the dreams of ever having one, my Mom’s cancer, the grief of leaving where I had spent most of my career, grief of my grandmother’s cancer and now her death. Oh yes, there have also been other small losses of issues with friends and family which I have had to grieve along the way.
I have been measuring my life is smaller increments of time for so long that when you look at a whole year it can be truly amazing. I’ve been guilty of spending too much time thinking about the future or the past that I do miss out on the current moment and as a result that second, minute, hour is gone.
A favorite quote I have is “I’m looking forward to looking back on all of this”.
I realize that the quote alone is one of spending time in the future but I truly believe that I am in a time period in my life where someday I will look back and realize that there was enormous growth and changes in my life for the better. I’ve said to many Friends that I know things will be OK – it’s just getting to the OK that is going to take some time and energy. The devotional reading on Tuesday used the example of road construction after winter and that sometimes in addition to filling pot holes, a road crew has to replace a road completely. There have been moments over the past months that I have felt like the life that I knew has been destroyed. However, over the past weeks I have also felt that my life is being rebuilt – alas, slower than I would like but I would rather take time than rush through.
So as I am
rebuilding/recreating/making this chapter of my life I wanted to spend some time reviewing the positives of the past year.
We’ve been to two NFL games – where we were either practically on the field or were lucky enough to have press passes!
|Miami Dolphins Press Box|
|Bengals – Dolphins game in October – seeing a pattern here
I’ve been fortunate enough that I’ve been able to stick my feet in the sand on four different beaches (sorry, can’t find all of the pictures)
|Hollywood Beach FL
|Vero Beach FL with my FF E!
Spent some time in the sun in some gorgeous places
|Hollywood Beach FL|
|One of the many beaches|
|Lexington Kentucky on an afternoon drive|
|I’m not sure when we started taking pictures of what we were drinking!|
|Oak Haven Resort in TN – Cabin 48 – a MUST STAY
|My birthday weekend in Vegas|